Is he in to me?

Few weeks ago. On the way from yoga class with my thirty flirty and thriving friends...
We had a discussion about (what else?) man.
Oprah's show once invited a man writer. His book is "What He Means". He was a former play boy who finally found his soulmate.
His book is about his adventures and experience with women.

He wrote that men often say something he does not really mean. And women often misinterpret men's words and moves.
A caller from the show asked the author. "He is sweet to me. He sends me messages, says nice things, takes me out, and yet he never proposes to me. Is he in to me?"
He answered: No.

Caller #2 : He is a soccer player. He visited my town once. We had good time, great sex. He said he'd call. He did occasionally. He never visits me again. Is he in to me?
He answered: Definetely Not.

And more other callers. all with the wrong perception about their men.
I, too, start to think that he is not really in to me either...
Well, he calls, sends sms, says nice things, calls me darling/dear/honey, asks me to marry him... but he doesn't visit me (well he's in different town, but still..).

And he's married.

I know.. I'm stupid. I should never get into this from the first place. I keep saying this to myself: I'm not a family breaker. I'm not somebody else's lover.
The thing is, he makes me comfortable.
Oh boy.. why married men are so irresistable?

Anyway, Is he in to me?